Calling parents

i know squirt!! I try so hard to get him to show respect and he doesn't take anything, he would rather lose something than ask politely. I mean honestly when i ask him to say "Please may i have *insert item here*" he gets all tense and it's like he's having his teeth pulled... He hates that i don't run the house like his parents do. I can't tell his parents how to teach their child, but around me, he needs to ask politely and stop demanding....

If he says "get me milk" I don't even look at him, much less talk to him, i wait until he asks like a big boy, and then he gets mad at me.

Well then, I feel as if he will lose a lot. Just keep on going until he figures out that being a rude little snot is not going to get him anywhere.

Be sure to tell him when he gets mad at you that if he asks nicely all the time, then you won't have to ignore him and can get him what he asks for straight away. Be glad that he just doesn't go and get what he wants for himself. At least he has respect enough to ask.

Make sure that he also knows you aren't his parents and thus don't run the house like they do. So he'll just have to behave as you want him to while you are there or he shall get nothing.

Just be aware (and I'm in no way saying that you do) not to talk to him in a condescending manner when you ask him to talk nicely to you and ask for things politely. Talking down to him, however much respect he should have for you, will get you nowhere. Even if he is only 4, he (as it sounds) is not at all stupid. Quite the opposite in fact, to behave the way he does, manipulating the people around him, and to get away with it.

Children can be quite beastly little things.

he compares me to his dad all the time... I just look ay him and ask him if i look like his dad and he's like no and i'm like exactly, i'm not your dad so don't compare me to him.

I'm just afraid that if he keeps acting like i'm this horrible person, that his parents will be like it's not working out, and i really need the money, ya know? But he only acts like i'm horrible when his parents are around, so it's probably just because he doesn't want anything to do with me now that his parents are home. Friday at my lesson, i was waiting for my ride to pick me up (cause we had to take my car in to get the AC fixed) and i was taking my guitar lesson with his dad, and he would sit there and go, "Your dads here see, ding dong" and he was probably playing around but thats rude and at 4 you should be told that your being rude and that kind of talk is unacceptable. But the whole thing of his dad not getting up and putting his kid in his room, and allowing the 4 year old to walk all over him just blew me away.

Oh do I know the feeling! If you feel that it could be an issue just explain the situation to his parents and say that he only tends to act up when they get home, because he wants their attention. I don't think that they will though, however silly his parents appear to be, they can't be that stupidly oblivious to the fact that he is a little snot.

If you lessons are also an issue, could you ask to be in a room where their son cannot bother you? I don't think it is unreasonable that you should have your lesson in private and not be interrupted by badly behaved little boys.

well we can't lock him out of the room, if no one else is home. I know i need to change it to like a saturday when his wife is home and can take care of him. It's just the lack of discipline, i'm scared that they'll think i'm being to harsh on him, ya know? I should probably talk about it with his parents. But you know how some parents are they think their child is the most precious and wonderful thing ever, how dare they discipline them. I'm scared of those parents, ya know?

I'm really over this eating thing, Not just because he won't eat the main meals (and want junk later) but that he wastes so much food, and i know i don't pay the bils, but really they shouldn't let him eat 2 bites and throw the rest away.

It was even worse today i gave him 2 chicken strips and he ate the breading on the outside and threw the rest of the chicken away. So i know in a few hours he'll be hungry and i'm not going to give into his little game and he's going to get pissed at me, and i'm just over it.... I like the days when he has school so i don't have to feed him.

thank you for letting me vent. I need it.